Friday, 6 April 2012

Grateful for honesty..

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This week I am grateful for honesty. You don't always want to hear what people have to say if it is not complimentary but I am grateful for truth.. it grounds me and lets me see more of the person offering it.

I am often amazed at how selfish and insensitive people can be shown to be when they blurt out their true thoughts.. Yet there are others that you meet, hardly know and the openness and honesty they provide has you craving to speak with them more. I have had a bit of both this week and I am grateful for both.

How about you? If honesty has you see someone you know in a negative light would you prefer to live in ignorance of this side of them and just love them for their good stuff?


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  1. I definitely prefer honesty, too. You can build far better relationships and make better decisions if you leave the guess work out of it, no matter how tempting it might be to remain ignorant.

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    1. Ignorance is bliss but knowledge is power.. and not power in a bad way.. more strength x

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  2. honesty is the best. sometimes our fear can get the better of us and our honesty. but if we all strive to be ourselves and express ourselves openly and honesty then this is good thing! x

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    1. Here, here Tahlia.... see I could be your buddy for a start ;)

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  3. it's a fine line I think ... its horses for courses ... can I think of another cliché :)

    first born says this morning 'there is no Easter bunny I know it is you - I looked straight into his sweet nine year old face and said 'sweetie the Easter bunny is real just like santa and the tooth fairy'. I am preserving childhood for as long as possible in the fast paced, consumer driven, overly connected world ...

    I was asked to be a bridesmaid years ago for a very close friend (from high school days - he was too - from high school - they had dated from final year) - her intended was a nasty piece of work in so many ways - no redeeming features. I said yes then a week later I went back and said I wasn't truly happy for her and she deserved to have someone by her side that saw her happiness in this union ... needless to say it was a bitter blow - my honesty ... the friendship ended there and then ... until five years later when the divorce was finalised ..I felt no joy in this either ... like all actions honesty has consequences

    Open and honest expression has it's place in a safe and secure relationship - constructively managed it leads you to a better place and stops you getting stomach ulcers ... I think my husband would be happier if I was a little less honest :) le

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    1. Wow that was a big call but you would have felt guilty for years if you hadn't stepped down... The secure part is oh so true and my husband would probably say the same as yours ;)

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  4. I encourage honesty and I hope to think that I am as honest with myself as possible. Nothing was ever gained from denial. There are so many ways to deliver criticism in a helpful, humble fashion. It's a learned skill and one we should all aim to teach our children. To give it and, most of all, to take it well.

    Good for you, Tessa. x

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