Are you one that stews on comments and never says anything?
I am not.. I may not say anything immediately but if something bothers me enough it won't take long.
This week my Mum and I had a full on screaming argumment, we swore, we cried, we said I love you and we walked away. This is the way I work best. You get it out, you both assess what was said and you build a bridge and get over it which is exactly what we have done.
I am so grateful I have parents that I can do that with.
It was over my son. Mum's comments to him had hurt me as she had been reprimanding him for not treating me well and not being nice to me. She was right. He is at a pretty difficult defiant stage and the way he (and his sister sometimes) treat me is far from ideal. I think as Mothers we often let it slide as we get used to it but it is wrong however listening to my Mum tell him off I got defensive as in my mind this is the little man I created.
Post fight I actually realised how her words had come from such a place of love and not of anger in that she was actually not trying to fix him because there is something wrong with him, more as a result of the fact she didn't like seeing her daughter treated like that.
Mum was feeling the exact feeling I had felt when hearing her words to him, she got defensive as I am the little girl SHE created.
So this week I am grateful for emotions, grateful for truth and grateful for love that truly can outlive any thing, if your love is strong enough it can and my love for my parents is just that.
That would be them there with my hubby n kiddlywinx.. so much love..
Do your family argue? Do you get over it or are you still at war?